If Palestinians and Israelis were a couple, could a marriage therapist …
Jun 7, 2017 – Susan Heitler Susan Heitler, PhD, a Denver clinical psychologist, writes about marriage, therapy, and emotional self-help. Her popular …
A Marriage Therapist’s View Of Our Dysfunctional Government
Our government leaders’ animosities toward each other could be steering us toward national disaster. From a family therapist’s perspective, what they need to change is simple and clear. And it’s not about the money. Read More
What’s Fair? Two Views of Government
There’s two ways to think of government’s role in making sure America is fair to all its citizens. The differences may have to do with whether we view American citizens as children or as adults. Read More
The Problem With Over-Emotional Political Rhetoric
Have you been sending or receiving emails with articles relevant to the election? If so, this experience is likely to sound familiar. Read More
Political Discussion: Eight Bad Habits That Ruin Relationships
Republicans and Democrats have become enemies who malign and misinterpret each other right and left. A political discussion between members of these two enemy camps can lead to the ending of friendships and even marriages. Wake up America! “A house divided cannot stand.” Read More
Collateral Damage
How does a sudden outbreak of war amongst civilized people in a sophisticated world-class city impact the life of a child? A psychologytoday.com reader shares her experiences. Read More
Pakistan Could Use a Therapeutic Intervention
A Pakistani scholar of international relations has proposed a strategy for helping her country shift from a culture of violence to a culture of collaborative dialogue and cooperative conflict resolution. The program she proposes is remarkably similar to the work I do as a therapist with couples in conflict. Read More
Thriving Organizations Have Thanks-giving From Below and Hands Off From Above
Well-functioning organizations from businesses to governments to families, generally share two common traits. My votes for the two golden guidelines for are … Read More
Freud Had It Right About Leaders
Freud’s brilliant insight, “Groups take on the personality of the leader,” is worth taking to heart. Policy matters, but so does personality. What Presidential personality traits do Americans seek in these treacherous economic times? Read More
“You have to fight to feel good.” In my twenties, when I was living in New York with a group of post-college friends, Bob was a tall handsome young man in our cadre who took this slogan about protests as his raison d’etre. But is it true? When are protests and fights good for you? Read More
Sex and Power: The Roots of Hysteria and Terrorism
What can Hysteria, a playful movie on sex in Victorian England, teach us about of the deeper motives for terrorism? It turns out that sex and power that are used abusivley lie at the heart of Islamic terrorism. Read More
Three of a Kind: Dictatorship,Terrorism, and Domestic Violence
Home is where we learn the fundamentals for becoming citizens of a democracy. Cultures that tolerate chiild and spousal abuse are at risk for breeding bullies, tyrants and and terrorism. By contrast families with skills for cooperative parenting and partnering train young people to value and succeed in a democracy. Read More