Looking for answers to marriage challenges, solutions that you can implement right away?
For starters, here is a list of some of Dr. Heitler’s particularly popular marriage articles.
- Did you know, communication in marriage is a skill you can learn?
- Have you ever wondered how online marriage counseling works?
- Why don’t people get marriage counseling when they need help?
- How to deal with jealousy? Take a look at yourself.
- Want to know how to save a marriage? End the old marriage and start again–same spouse, new ways of interacting.
- Online relationship counseling – Get help the way you want it.
- Identifying marriage problems? How do you fix them?
- The How to Fix a Relationship Roadmap.
- 5 tips for finding good marriage help books.
- What the experts know about surviving an affair.
- When is it time for couples counseling?
- It’s time to learn how to communicate with your spouse?
- Find sexless marriage help here.
Love: 13 Reasons Why It May Not Lead to Marriage
Marriage: the Ultimate Collaborative Venture
I believe in marriage.
Marriage opens the doors to many of life’s most rewarding blessings, from sharing coffee in the morning to sharing a bed at night. In my opinion marriage is one of life’s ultimate privileges and the core structure of a stable society.
What exactly is marriage?
Legally it is a partnership contract. Emotionally, marriage commits you to comingling your lives—side by side, hand in hand, heart to heart. When you agree to marry, you commit to joining forces for purposes of housing, finances, children, sex, leisure, fostering each other’s realizations as individuals, digesting disappointments, celebrating triumphs—together writing the music of your lives.…
What is the Power of Two?
In mathematics, when you multiply a number by itself, you raise it to the power of two. As opposed to addition, where adding a number to itself merely doubles it, raising a number to the power of two causes exponential growth. For example, 10 + 10 = 20, but 10 x 10 = 100.
A similar increase happens in a healthy marriage. Read More….
Options for the Unhappily Married
Country music group Pistol Annies poignantly sings about how marriage can become a trap. At the same time, the words suggest ways to open the trap and find routes to happiness, Read More
Marriage Arguments: Can All Conflicts Be Resolved?
Fighting About Money? Beware!
When couples fight about money, they are moving forward on a high risk road. Danger ahead. Read More
A Big Family: Does Number of Sibs Impact Divorce Risk?
A recent study suggests an interesting relationship between the size of the family a child grows up within and the likelihood that in adulthood that child will end up divorced. Read More
What Domestic Batterers Can Teach Us About Terrorism
Home is where we learn the fundamentals for becoming citizens of a democracy. Cultures that tolerate child and spousal abuse are at risk for breeding bullies, tyrants and and terrorism. By contrast families with skills for cooperative parenting and partnering train young people to value and succeed in a democracy. Read More
Happy Marriage, Happy Life
For many folks the choice is clear. Far better to invest in continously building strong love habits than to risk losing your marriage. Here’s a checkup to be sure you’re keeping your marriage in tip-top condition. Read More
Why Affairs Tempt Us, And How to Prevent Them
The two most likely candidates for affairs are old flames and work associates. Most affairs occur because naïve partners slide into sexual situations they can’t handle. Given the potency of sexual feelings with a new partner, policies for protection from their pull are key to prevention of inadvertent infidelities. Learn about gerbils to understand why. Read More
Do More Things Bring Less Love?
Recent research suggests that stylish clothes and a big house may indicate that the person inside the showy clothes and home is at risk for narcissism, marriage problems, and less happiness. It may be though that upgrading your marriage communication skills can let you have it all. Read More
Age-Gap Couples in the Twilight Zone
Couples with a large chronilogical age difference may initially feel very similar in terms of emotional age. Still, they are likely to face logistical challenges vis a vis their life-stage differences. She may be eager for children, when he’s wanting to visit the grandkids. How will the age differences affect them twenty years later? Read More
The Art of Listening: How Open Are Your Ears?
How would you rate yourself as a lover? Rate yourself on your listening skills to assess how well you can connect with a partner. Here’s a self-assessment quiz that zeros in on the five key listening skills for gratifying relationships at work and at home. Read More
Want Marriage Problems? Expect Your Spouse to Be Perfect
Odds are that if you have a tendency to criticize your spouse, you mistakenly have been expecting perfection. Big mistake. Read More
Stress in Relationships: 10 Sources and Their Antidotes
Stressful circumstances inevitably, from time to time, land on every couple’s doorstep. It’s what happens next that make stress either shrink or grow. Read More
How to Love: A 5-Part Action Plan
To fall in love is a passive act. To sustain love takes actions. Read More
How To Prevent Your Marriage From Making You Depressed
Can marriage cause depression? See these 9 research findings for both the good and the bad news. Read More
What Increases Marriage Satisfaction?
Does perfect love result in a perfect marriage of two spouses who “live happily ever after?” Not so says forthright and funny journalist Elizabeth Weil, author of the newly released marriage-upgrade saga No Cheating, No Dying. And according to recent marriage research, that kind of perfection is not even desirable. Read More
How To Get An Ex Back: 5 Essential Steps
A large proportion of my clients are couples on the brink of a final ending. After drifting through years of distancing and fighting, the couple has separated. The couple is quickly heading downstream toward the waterfall of a permanent break-up or divorce. Is there any way at this point to save their love from splitting apart forever? Read More
Skip the Criticism Altogether. Give Feedback Instead.
The notion of constructive criticism is bogus. Criticism stings. Instead, give feedback. That’s more useful and generally painless. Can you tell the difference? Here’s three examples to test out your ear. Read More
Marriage: 6 Guidelines from Ancient Wisdom Texts
Are You Falling Out of Love? A Quiz on 10 Warning Signs
Boundaries, Privacy and Intimacy Are Partly Culturally Determined
Mad Enough to Tell Someone to ‘Take a Hike!’ ?
Lo and behold, the old expression of anger ‘Go take a hike!’ turns out to be good advice. Read More
The Deceptive Power of Love’s First Moments
Infatuation feels great. Enjoy it. Just be sure though to go beyond initial chemistry to a thoughtful decision before you agree to say “I do.” Read More
Does Gratitude Matter in Marriage?
More thanks, praise and appreciation make for a more gratifying relationship. Here’s how and why. Read More
10 Ways To Radiate Positivity And Be Attractive
Positive leaders are upbeat to talk with. They feel “warm.” Whether they are your boss, your employee or colleague, your friend, family members or loved ones; these folks feel safe to share with, and, like sunshine, radiate good vibes. Their positivity makes you want to talk with them more because they’ve set good vibes as a relationship standard. Read More
Marriage: 8 Dangerously Wrong Conventional Wisdoms
Mistaken advice about marriage can have potent impacts. Beware especially of these relationship-wreckers. Read More
Clear Needless Emotional Clutter From Your Relationships
Clearing your language of these five needlessly provocative words and short phrases can have a surprisingly positive impact on your relationships. Read More
Valentine Day’s Thoughts on Love and Marriage
Smartmarriages founder Diane Sollee shares some of her favorite quotes on love and marriage. There’s no time like Valentine’s Day to think about what you can do to make your love relationship all the more positive. Read More
Baby Come and Light My Fire…
Striking a match can light a candle. Initial sparks can help to kindle a blaze. So too with lighting sexual fires, which in turn help to keep marital affection warmly loving. What mutual actions can couples take to ignite their sexual energies? Read More
Is Your Relationship Toolkit Sufficient?
Studies continue to show that marriage education courses significantly upgrade a couple’s chances of enjoying a long and strong relationship. With effective apology, emotional self-regulation, communication and conflict resolution skills, couple partnerships are more likely to thrive. Read More
Self-Diagnosing Your Marriage Problems? Beware!
Eric Clapton’s famed song suggests “Before you accuse me, take a look at yourself.” To diagnose and fix problems that come up in your marriage, sit down and look inward instead of pointing fingers at your spouse’s errors. Read More
How Effective Is Your Marriage Therapy?
If you and your spouse have had some tough times and turned for help to a couples counselor, how can you assess if the therapy is genuinely helping? Many folks in couples counseling are uncertain as to what to use as a measuring stick. Whether the therapist is “a nice person” is not sufficient. Try this quiz instead. Read More
Emotional IQ Alone Is Not Enough For Marriage Success
Emotional IQ is to marriage what athletic talent is to sports. Emotional IQ indicates talent in the realm of relationships. Talent helps. But talent alone does not lead to great performance as a husband or wife. You also need to develop strong marriage communication and conflict resolution skills. Read More
The Woman Who Saved Marriage
One woman’s dedication to the idea of marriage education reversed America’s rising divorce rates and may have saved the institution of marriage. Read More
From Thin-Skin to Win-Win: How Couples Counseling Helps
Are you and your loved one living the opposite of happily ever after? If your partnership is yielding fear, resentment or anger, maybe it’s time to reverse the trend. Couples counseling can help. How do therapists convert a relationship that generates fear and frustration to one that feels safe, supportive and enriching? Read More
