HAND OUTS

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FREE HANDOUTS FROM SUSAN HEITLER, PHD

COMMUNICATION SKILLS for Sustaining Collaborative Dialogue

1. Six Safe Sentence Starters for sensitive conversations (with explanations)
2. 6 Sentence Starters (simplified version) for sustaining safe dialogue on sensitive subjects.
3. Word Patrol/The No-Fly List
4. Dangerous Words …. Safe Words
5. Listen to Learn (3 pages)
6. Red Flags Indicating Disruptive Communication Habits, from From Conflict to Resolution

CONFLICT RESOLUTION

1. The Win-Win Waltz
2. The Win-Win Waltz (from Cue Cards)
3. Mapping the Route (2 pages)
4. Conflict Resolution Sequence, from From Conflict to Resolution
5. Keys to Resolving Conflict
6. Skills for Guiding Conflict Resolution

ANXIETY, DEPRESSION, AND ANGER

1. Three Steps for Alleviating Anxiety
2. Three P’s to Alleviate Depression (see YouTube for TEDx on this)
3. Depression Management
4. 8 Natural Anti-Depressants
5. Identify situations in which you have been tempted to fold
6. Design exit/re-entry routines (for ending angry interactions), 2 pgs
7. Exit/Re-Entry Routines
8. My Anger Log
9. Rate Your Amygdala’s Emotional Reactivity
10. Anger Is a Stop Sign Chart
11. Regard Anger as a Stop Sign/What To LookFor after I Have Calmed Down
12. Anger Fuels List
13. Alternatives to Arguing

POSITIVITY

1. Power of Two: Ways to Spread Warmth (2 pages)
2. Sunshine Factors
3. When the Going Gets Tough, Play Ball

HANDOUTS FOR THERAPY PROFESSIONALS

1. The Circle of Skills, which together sustain strong couple relationships
2. Therapy Session Notes
3. Intake Form for Couples (short form, for clients to fill out prior to 1^st session)
4. Client Information (long form, for combining with symptoms checklist) (3 pgs)
5. Symptoms Checklist, for clients to fill out prior to 1^st session along with their information form.
6. Initial Intake Evaluation (for note-taking during the 1^st session with couples)
7. Disclosure of Policies, sample form letter (2 pgs)
8. Session Review, form for handing to clients at end of each session
9. Protocol for Depth Dive, to explore earlier-in-life roots of strong emotional reactions