Professional Roles

Therapist

Dr. Heitler’s clinical practice focuses on empowering clients to resolve challenges through effective exploration of their emotional triggers plus enhancement of their ability to find solutions to their difficulties. She specializes in treating anxiety, depression, and relationship conflicts, with an emphasis on practical tools for lasting change.

Author

Dr. Heitler details her therapy techniques in her books From Conflict to Resolution: Skills and Strategies for Therapy with Individuals, Couples, and Families and Presciptions Without Pills: For Relief from Depression, Anxiety, Anger, and More.

Dr. Heitler also explains and demonstrates her techniques in two APA-accredited online courses: The Angry Couple: Conflict-Focused Treatment and, most recently, Effective Couples Therapy

Dr. Heitler’s books for the general public, including the widely acclaimed The Power of Two and its accompanying workbook, The Power of Two Workbook, coach the skills that enable marriage success.  Published in seven foreign language editions: Polish, Turkish, Chinese (Taiwan and mainland China), Hebrew, Spanish, and Portuguese (Brazil), her writings have had global impacts.

Speaker and Workshop Leader

A sought-after speaker, Dr. Heitler has been invited to present her engaging and practical workshops for therapists across the US and globally, from Australia, the UAE, Lebanon, Israel, Turkey, and India, to China. Her presentations focus especially on the tools therapist need to effectively teach their clients the process of win-win conflict resolution, on innovative techniques for treating depression, anxiety, anger, and narcissism, and on too-often-overlooked ethical considerations when a therapist is working in individual treatment with a married client.

Innovator and Educator

Dr. Heitler’s conflict-focused conceptual map for guiding therapy integrates multiple treatment approaches.  Her unique “Hand Map” clarifies the sources of negative emotional states such as depression, anger, and anxiety. 

Dr. Heitler’s blogposts provide unique perspective on many self-help topics, plus information for both the general public and therapy professionals on parental alienation. She explains adult sibling alienation, a term she coined to describe situations in which one adult sibling alienates other family members, usually to gain control of an aging parent’s inheritance directives.  Her posts offer a unique perspective on narcissism, that is, that at the core of narcissism is a listening disorder.  In addition, her blogposts and videos explaining and illustrating  energy therapy techniques introduce this vital new area of treatment.

Publications

Books
Author of six books, multiple audios and videos, and most recently the APA-accredited online couples therapy training course, Effective Couples Therapy. Dr. Heitler’s self-help books include The Power of Two and The Power of Two Workbook, which together coach the skills that enable marriage success. These books have been published in seven foreign language editions: Polish, Turkish, Chinese (Taiwan and mainland China), Hebrew, Spanish, and Portuguese (Brazil).

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Articles and Chapters
Dr. Heitler has contributed numerous journal articles and book chapters. Click Here for a list of her journal articles and PDFs of her book chapters, 

Blogs and Online Publications
Dr. Heitler’s blog on PsychologyToday.com, titled Resolution, Not Conflict, has attracted over 26 million views. She has also blogged for GoodTherapy.org, YourTango.com, Marriage.com, and Times of Israel.

Achievements and Media Presence

Awards and Recognitions

  • Fellow, APA (2013) and Fellow, APA Division 29 (2016).
  • Shane Marie Morrow Lecture, awarded for her innovative contributions to therapy.
  • Keynote address at the 1st Pan-Arab Psychology Conference in Beirut, Lebanon (2015), titled Conflict Resolution: My Way, No, MY Way.
  • Selected to present a TEDx talk in Wilmington, DE (2016), which has received over 26.5 million views.

Media Presence

  • Interviews in Fitness, Men’s Health, Women’s World, and Parenting.
  • Frequent feature in the Ladies Home Journal column, Can This Marriage Be Saved?
  • Interviews on Denver TV for psychological insights into current events.
  • Featured on the CBS Early Show, where anchor Harry Smith introduced her as “the most influential person in my life—my therapist.”

Contributions to Training

  • Selected to demonstrate couple treatment techniques in the video series Assessment and Treatment of Psychological Disorders. Her video, The Angry Couple: Conflict-Focused Treatment, is widely used in marriage therapy training programs.
  • Wrote the chapter on Treating High Conflict Couples in the Psychologist Desk Reference.

U.S. Healthy Marriages Initiative
A U.S. Healthy Marriages Initiative grant enabled Dr. Heitler and her associates to produce an interactive online programfor teaching marriage communication and conflict resolution skills. Hundreds of couples have benefited from this fun, low-cost, high-impact program.

Workshops and Online Courses

Workshops and Online Courses

Workshops for Therapists
Dr. Heitler has presented training workshops for therapists across the US and internationally, teaching strategies for treating couples, depression, anxiety, anger, and narcissism. Her workshops emphasize practical, actionable skills that therapists can implement in their practices.

Online Programs
Dr. Heitler offers APA-accredited online courses such as Effective Couples Therapy and webinars through TherapyExpress.com. These programs focus on ethical approaches to working with married clients and highlight the importance of involving spouses in therapy.

Resources & Websites

Educational Websites

Blogs and Professional Contributions

Education and Personal Life

Education

  • Ph.D. New York University (1975): Clinical Psychology.
  • M.Ed. Boston University (1968): Education of emotionally disturbed children.
  • B.A. Harvard University (1967): Major in English.

Personal Life
Dr. Heitler and her husband of more than 50 years are proud parents of four happily married adult children. They now gratefully enjoy being grandparents to sixteen grandchildren.