Relationship endings can be difficult to accomplish gracefully. It is possible though to lower the risk that a breakup will lead to depression. The same strategy works whether you are the one who initiates the breakup or the one who receives the bad news. Read More
Are You Getting Too Much of What You Don’t Want? Try This 3-D Check-Up
Depression is triggered by interactions that leave you feeling a sense of loss, disappointment and hopelessness about getting what you want. Three speech patterns, which I call the 3-D’s, are especially likely to trigger depressed feelings in the receiver. Do any of these sound familiar to you? Read More
Heartbroken: What Does Neuroimaging Show About Your Pain?
Are BPD “Drama Queens” Manipulative, Sadistic, and Worse?
High intensity emotions are costly. They make interactions stressful, upsetting, emotionally draining, and demoralizing. Read More
Depression is a Disorder of Power so Here’s a Way to Power Up
Conflict resolution therapy eliminates depression by resolving the conflict that has triggered it. Here’s a conflict-resolution visualization technique for lifting depression. Try it on your own or ask your therapist or a friend to help out. Read More
Is Calling Depression an Illness and Treating it With Pills Worth the Risks?
Diagnosing depression as an illness and treating it with anti-depressant medication may create new difficulties. The risks include dampening your ability to feel happiness and sexual arousal, and causing weight gain, drug dependency and relationship problems. What if you treat depression instead as indicating a problem in your life? Read More