Category Archives: Self-Help

If You Tend to Get Scattered, Check for Adult ADD/ADHD

Children with attention deficits tend to be recognized by parents, pediatricians and teachers. Adult ADD sufferers by contrast often go undiagnosed. Yet adult ADD can destroy relationships at home and at work.

Is Embarrassment Really Secret Joy?

The flush of cheeks could look like happiness. Or is it really shame or even humiliation?

How to Get an Ex Back: 5 Essential Steps

After years of distancing and fighting, the couple has separated. Is there any way to save their love from splitting apart forever?

How to Heal After Upsets: A Safe 4-Step Route to Recovery

Mad at someone? Healing dialogues that lead to learning from a past upset can turn what felt like a curse into a blessing.

How to Love: A 5-Part Action Plan

Falling in love is passive. Sustaining love takes actions. Do you take these actions? often enough?

How to Express Feelings… and How Not To

Effectively expressing feelings enables us to move on from troubling negative emotions. It also brings us closer to those with whom we share these feelings.

How to Feel Better When You’re Feeling Bad

When you feel down, discouraged or frustrated, Buddhist concepts and techniques that focus you in the immediate present can offer surprising relief. Here's an accessible guide.

How Do I Stop Being a Narcissist?

As one narcissistic fellow said, "I feel like I'm a knight on a giant white steed while others are just tiny beings below my feet... Still, if I knew better, I'd do better."

How Do Your Relationships Flow?

Communication is the flow of information in relationships. Information flows between people just like water flows in nature's streams. Smooth laminar flow is good. Bumpy turbulence causes problems.

How Does Communication Flow in your Relationships?

Water, traffic and words all flow. When the flow is laminar, that is, smooth, the interactions feel cooperative. Blockage and turbulence in the flow of speech signal that cooperation has broken down, replaced by listening blockages and adversarilal stances.