Category Archives: Relationships

How to Heal After Upsets: A Safe 4-Step Route to Recovery

Mad at someone? Healing dialogues that lead to learning from a past upset can turn what felt like a curse into a blessing.

How to Love: A 5-Part Action Plan

Falling in love is passive. Sustaining love takes actions. Do you take these actions? often enough?

How To Meet People At Parties: 7 Icebreakers

I can vouch for this getting-to-know-folks strategy having just returned from my husband's 45th college reunion where I knew virtually no one.

How to Prevent Your Marriage From Making You Depressed

Can marriage cause depression? These 9 findings can help you understand the connection.

How Does Communication Flow in your Relationships?

Water, traffic and words all flow. When the flow is laminar, that is, smooth, the interactions feel cooperative. Blockage and turbulence in the flow of speech signal that cooperation has broken down, replaced by listening blockages and adversarilal stances.

How Gender Differences Make Decision-Making Difficult

Men rush for the finish line. Women explore, communicating about various underlying concerns. And therein lies the struggle. What can you do about it?

How Good Are You at the Art of Conversation? A Quiz

What makes a good conversationalist? These 10 key factors may surprise you.

How Contempt Destroys Relationships

What is it about snide remarks and dismissive listening that make these habits so potently destructive?

How Do Sex and Power Abuses Lead to Terrorism and War?

What are the deeper motives underlying some jihadists' attraction to terrorism? It turns out that sex and power, used abusively, lie at the heart of Islamic terrorism.

How Do Your Relationships Flow?

Communication is the flow of information in relationships. Information flows between people just like water flows in nature's streams. Smooth laminar flow is good. Bumpy turbulence causes problems.