Category Archives: Counseling

Bad Luck, Bad Choices or Psychological Reversal?

Are you your own worst enemy? You may suffer from a subconscious phenomenon that therapists are just at the very beginning stages of recognizing and treating.

Beware: Thinking Leads to Doing

Sports psychologists teach athletes to visualize making a winning basketball free throw or an effective tennis serve before doing the action. That’s because thinking prepares you for doing. When you think about something, the odds zoom upwards that you will do just what your mind was picturing. The lesson: be careful what you think about!

Borderline Personality Disorder: The Sufferer’s Experience

When a man or woman with borderline personality patterns erupts in strong emotions, loved ones can feel under fire. At the same time, the person with BPD also suffers.

Am I Heading for a Bad Marriage? My Spouse Is So Annoying

If only my spouse would change... Or is that a mistaken path to follow?

Antidotes to Boredom: Why Shopping is Fun

Boredom comes from too much sameness. Shopping—for new things, new friends or new love—can, by contrast, feel fun. Newness is invigorating. Why?

Are BPD Sufferers Manipulative, Sadistic, and Worse?

High intensity emotions are costly. They make interactions stressful, upsetting, emotionally draining, and demoralizing.

A Winning Way to Get Started Writing Your Life Story

Sometimes the hardest part of writing is getting started. Here's a highly effective launch strategy.