Category Archives: Conflict Resolution
What Stops Arguments? Emotional Self-Regulation Skills
Five emotional-self-regulation techniques that can help put an end to arguing.
What Tennis Players Understand About Handling Losses
Tennis players need to become masters of managing disappointment. Winning is an addictive upper. Yet by the end of every tournament, all the players but one have lost.
What Makes Conflict? How Are Conflicts Resolved?
Conflicts can create irritation, anger, anxiety, or depression. This 3-step pathway from conflict to resolution will make your life feel easier, happier, and more peaceful.
What Sport Does Collaborative Dialogue Mimic?
Cluelessness about the skills that sustain cooperative dialogue puts people at risk for difficulties in their relationships—in friendships, at work, and at home.
What Dogs Can Teach Us about the Main Cause of Depression
Psychologists have long pondered what is the cause, and the evolutionary purpose, of depressed feelings. Dogs have the answer.
The Art of Disagreeing Agreeably
Do you avoid conflict? This strategy can enable you to share your differing view in a way that keeps your relationships harmonious.
Solve Tough Dilemmas With the Win-Win Waltz
To settle conflicts with resolutions you both feel good about, use this worksheet to guide you through the three steps of the "win-win waltz." You can both always be right.
Protests: Potent or Impotent?
"You have to fight to feel good." In my twenties, when I was living in New York with a group of post-college friends, Bob was a tall handsome young man in our cadre who took this slogan about protests as his raison d'etre. But is it true? When are protests and fights good for you?
Pakistan Could Use a Therapeutic Intervention
A Pakistani scholar of international relations has proposed a strategy for helping her country shift from a culture of violence to a culture of collaborative dialogue and cooperative conflict resolution. The program she proposes is remarkably similar to the work I do as a therapist with couples in conflict.
Mending a Broken Family; Strengthening a Healthy Family
Families can be fountains of strength. At the same time, all families are fragile. Internal factors like a parent with mental health issues, and also outside factors like job loss or economic stresses, can overwhelm a couple's abilities to cope in good humor. One temporarily fractured couple has written profound advice relevant to all parents.