Category Archives: Communication

Couples Therapy: The Four Questions

Leonardo Niño Rodríguez, a journalist in Colombia South America, recently asked me for a state-of-the-art assessment of couples therapy.

Couples Therapy: What 5 Ingredients Create a Great Outcome?

Does your couples therapist provide these essentials? If not, what can you do about it?

Can You Say No To Requests?

People-pleasing has its up-sides. Generosity tends to uplift the giver as well as the receiver. Yet for the times when you really do not want to do something that someone has requested of you, here's a gracious way to say a clear no.

Can You Spot 10 Signs of a Childish Adult?

Do you have the emotional maturity of a young child—or spend time with a particularly childlike adult?

Caveman Responses: Are You Too Quick to Get Mad?

Did anyone ever tell you to think before you act? If your amygdala is hyperactive, you're at risk for "going back brain" and acting out anger before you think.

Baby Come and Light My Fire…

Sexual enjoyment together helps to keep marital affection warmly loving. What mutual actions can couples take to ignite their sexual energies?

Between Parent and Child: An All-Time Parenting Best-Seller

Haim Ginott's parenting book revolutionized our ideas of how to talk with children.

Beware Of Mistaken Marriage Advice That “All Couples Fight”

Beware of marriage advice that suggests that all couples fight. They don't. Successful couples also don't sweep their differences under the rug. Here's an alternative.

Boundaries, Privacy and Intimacy Are Cultural Phenomena

When couples start with different cultural backgrounds, their his-way, her-way expectations of intimacy, of what is private and what can be shared, can be confusing.

Can I Trust My Gut to Know I’ve Found My True Love

Use these five short tests to help you assess if a person who feels like a marriage candidate would be a good choice for sealing the deal as husband and wife.