To fully clean up distressed feelings an apology needs to include the following ingredients. 1. Specificity: “I’m sorry about my ______.” That is, specify exactly what you did that you see now was mistaken. 2. Non-intentionality: “I didn’t mean to hurt you.” 3. Clarification: What was your miss – the mistake, misperception, misunderstanding, miscommunication, mishap, […]
Category Archives: Teaching marriage communication and conflict resolution
Couples often seek information on how to fix a relationship, how to communicate with your spouse, how to handle marriage problems, and how to save a marriage. They are wise to seek out this kind of information, especially about skills for communication in marriage. Most of all they need conflict resolution skills for collaboratively finding win-win solutions to their differences.
Susan Heitler, Ph.D: To be published in the forthcoming book Earning a Living Outside of Managed Care: Fifty Ways to Leave Your Oppressor, Steve Walfish, ed. I am a psychologist in private practice whose marriage therapy treatment strategy includes a heavy dose of marriage skills training. I write books for marriage therapists and for couples. I have […]
By Susan Heitler, Ph.D., author, From Conflict to Resolution www.therapyhelp.com For therapy with the so-called personality disorders of borderlines and narcissists, a non-pathologizing orientation can be helpful. These are folks who function in a borderline or narcissistic matter, that is, in a way that is emotionally stormy and ‘all about me.’ In both syndromes, the folks are not […]
Power of Two Marriage Skills Workshops And Its Use with Refugees Susan Heitler, M.Ed., Ph.D. Tatyana Fertelmeyster, MA, LCPC Private Practice Jewish Family and Community Service Denver, CO […]
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