Susan Heitler, Ph.D. University of Denver, School of Professional Psychology 1. Define conflict levels Conflict may be expressed in anxious tension, depression, disengagement (for fear of fights), and passive-aggressive or addictive behavior, as well as in overt anger, deprecating or demanding words and tone of voice or, in the extreme, physical violence. High conflict refers to the frequency […]
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Susan Heitler, Ph.D. www.therapyhelp.com January, 2009 Couples entering therapy typically list conflict resolution as one of their main treatment goals. For successful treatment, they want their therapist to guide them to safe and satisfying resolution of the topics that have generated their […]
Susan Heitler, Ph.D: To be published in the forthcoming book Earning a Living Outside of Managed Care: Fifty Ways to Leave Your Oppressor, Steve Walfish, ed. I am a psychologist in private practice whose marriage therapy treatment strategy includes a heavy dose of marriage skills training. I write books for marriage therapists and for couples. I have […]
Susan Heitler, Ph.D. www.TherapyHelp.com The winter holiday season brings emotions aplenty. Gift-giving and family gatherings bring heights of joy to many people—and the intensity of the holidays can trigger equally potent emotional lows. The following list suggests a number of common downers. Be prepared! Planning ahead can prevent emotional crashes, and transform potentially difficult times to opportunities for uplift. […]
By Susan Heitler, Ph.D., author, From Conflict to Resolution www.therapyhelp.com For therapy with the so-called personality disorders of borderlines and narcissists, a non-pathologizing orientation can be helpful. These are folks who function in a borderline or narcissistic matter, that is, in a way that is emotionally stormy and ‘all about me.’ In both syndromes, the folks are not […]