Author Archives: Susan Heitler

How to Express Feelings… and How Not To

Effectively expressing feelings enables us to move on from troubling negative emotions. It also brings us closer to those with whom we share these feelings.

How to Get an Ex Back: 5 Essential Steps

After years of distancing and fighting, the couple has separated. Is there any way to save their love from splitting apart forever?

How to Feel Better When You’re Feeling Bad

When you feel down, discouraged or frustrated, Buddhist concepts and techniques that focus you in the immediate present can offer surprising relief. Here's an accessible guide.

How to Love: A 5-Part Action Plan

Falling in love is passive. Sustaining love takes actions. Do you take these actions? often enough?

How To Meet People At Parties: 7 Icebreakers

I can vouch for this getting-to-know-folks strategy having just returned from my husband's 45th college reunion where I knew virtually no one.

How to Prevent Your Marriage From Making You Depressed

Can marriage cause depression? These 9 findings can help you understand the connection.

How to Heal After Upsets: A Safe 4-Step Route to Recovery

Mad at someone? Healing dialogues that lead to learning from a past upset can turn what felt like a curse into a blessing.

How Effective Is Your Marriage Therapy?

If you and your spouse have had some tough times and turned for help to a couples counselor, how can you assess if the therapy is genuinely helping? Many folks in couples counseling are uncertain as to what to use as a measuring stick. Whether the therapist is "a nice person" is not sufficient. Try this quiz instead.

How Does Your Child Sleep?

Having difficulty getting your child to bed down in the evenings? Check out this new book for frazzled families.

How Does Communication Flow in your Relationships?

Water, traffic and words all flow. When the flow is laminar, that is, smooth, the interactions feel cooperative. Blockage and turbulence in the flow of speech signal that cooperation has broken down, replaced by listening blockages and adversarilal stances.