Author Archives: Susan Heitler
I Know I Need Therapy Help, but Is My Therapy Working?
Not all therapy proves to be helpful. How can you assess if the particular therapist and treatment you are involved with are likely to succeed in helping you to solve your problems? Here are two perspectives and a set of nine guiding questions.
If You Speak Negativity, It’s Time to Learn a 2nd Language
Three speech patterns, which I call the 3-D's, are especially likely to trigger depressed feelings in a receiver. Do any of these sound familiar to you?
If You Tend to Get Scattered, Check for Adult ADD/ADHD
Children with attention deficits tend to be recognized by parents, pediatricians and teachers. Adult ADD sufferers by contrast often go undiagnosed. Yet adult ADD can destroy relationships at home and at work.
If Your Mother Was Grieving, Could You Become Her Caretaker?
What would you do if you suddenly found that you had to care for a depressed and grieving parent?
Individual Therapy for Married People: A Huge Mistake?
In my view, it may be a very mistaken—albeit common—practice to treat individuals without assessing their relationship and family life.
Infidelity!
Does the threat of an infidelity sound scarey to you? It should. Affairs are among the most greedy and selfish things a spouse can do. They can wreak havoc with personal happiness and with marital bonds. At the same time, the best antidote to anxiety is information. Here's a batch.
How will Marriage fare in this year’s Oscars?
Did you notice how strong a role marriage played in so many of the Oscar winners?
How to Prevent Your Marriage From Making You Depressed
Can marriage cause depression? These 9 findings can help you understand the connection.
How To Meet People At Parties: 7 Icebreakers
I can vouch for this getting-to-know-folks strategy having just returned from my husband's 45th college reunion where I knew virtually no one.
How to Love: A 5-Part Action Plan
Falling in love is passive. Sustaining love takes actions. Do you take these actions? often enough?