Author Archives: Susan Heitler
Psychotherapy Integration: Bump Theory Explains How to Do It
Bump Theory explains why you feel bad and how to feel better. The theory offers a map for self-help, and also for integrative therapists—those who use many techniques.
Raising Well-Behaved Kids: Mistaken vs. Smart Discipline
Want to raise good kids? Avoid two harmful discipline techniques, and use instead four far more positive options.
Resilience: Why It’s Vital and How To Enhance It
Tennis players must recover from frustrating points within 25 seconds. Tennis players are just humans. If they do resilience so quickly, you can learn to do it too.
Relationship Problems: What Resources Can Help?
When all looks lost in a relationship, what resources can you turn to that are likely to make a difference? And which kinds of help are most useful when?
Relationship Feng Shui: 3 Ways to Remove Negative Energy
Ever wonder why you turn people off? Or why someone you know is so hard to be around?
Recovery From an Affair: What Both Spouses Need To Heal
Prevention of affairs beats recovery. But after the damage has been done, what makes recovery possible? Can the breach of trust from lying ever heal?
Scientific American Misses on the Cause of Depression
A depressive collapse can leave you feeling powerless, self-critical and discouraged. What popped your inner self-confidence balloon however can feel like a mystery.
Resisting the 3 Main Temptations that Destroy Marriages
I call them the three A's. Beware, unless you want a divorce, as they are the behaviors most likely to become marriage deal-breakers. You may be more susceptible than you think.
Self-Diagnosing Your Marriage Problems? Beware!
Eric Clapton's famed song suggests "Before you accuse me, take a look at yourself." To diagnose and fix problems that come up in your marriage, sit down and look inward instead of pointing fingers at your spouse's errors.
Protests: Potent or Impotent?
"You have to fight to feel good." In my twenties, when I was living in New York with a group of post-college friends, Bob was a tall handsome young man in our cadre who took this slogan about protests as his raison d'etre. But is it true? When are protests and fights good for you?