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For starters, information is power. Posted Feb 27, 2018 In my recent blogpost entitled “Parental Alienation: What Is It? Who Does It?” I mentioned that in my clinical practice, I recently have had a run on cases of parental alienation syndrome. A common theme has emerged: ...
Diagnosis and treatment can both be tricky. Here’s a guide to traps and tips. Posted Sep 20, 2019 Parental alienation is child abuse. We must do better at protecting these children and helping them to heal.Source: (c) HaywireMedia/fotosearch A distraught divorced mother reports that ...
Alienating individuals and groups can wreak havoc on friends, nations, and more. Posted Jun 07, 2019 When three becomes two against one, beware of alienation.Source: (c) AntonioGuillem/fotosearch Usually I focus in my blog posts, books, and clinical work on how couples can build healthy relationsh...
What about “therapeutic jurisprudence”? Posted Jun 06, 2019 Source: MR.Yanukit/Shutterstock When one parent alienates children from the other parent, the outcome can so seriously harm the child that alienation is now considered child abuse. Yet the courts in many instances misunderst...
No need for divorce for one parent to selfishly turn the kids against the other. Posted Feb 19, 2019 When one parent speaks harshly to the other, the kids suffer. My area of specialty focuses on teaching the collaborative dialogue and conflict resolution skills that enable couples to enjoy a life-en...
Two Classic Cases of Courts Failing Alienated Parents When lawyers and judges are uninformed, the results can be harmful. Posted Oct 01, 20 What do the courts need to learn to better serve kids when one parent blocks them from connecting with the other? Usually in my Psychology Today posts, I addres...
Parental Alienation Syndrome: What is it, and Who does it What kind of parent lies to turn their kids against the other parent? Posted Feb 01, 2018 Recently, in my clinical practice, I’ve seen a huge uptick in cases of parental alienation. Instead of talking cooperatively in the manner I te...
Conflict-Resolution Therapy: Handouts, Forms, and Treatment Protocols Table of Contents...
This article addresses the need for therapists to see the forest as well as the trees. It proposes that the core overall project of therapy is to help people to resolve their conflicts, bringing new and more gratifying solutions to difficult dilemmas. Conflict resolution theory enables individual ...
This article addresses the need for therapists to see the forest as well as the trees. It proposes that the core overall project of therapy is to help people to resolve their conflicts, bringing new and more gratifying solutions to difficult dilemmas. Conflict resolution theory enables individual ...
Psychotherapy Integration: Bump Theory Explains How to Do It Bump Theory explains why you feel bad and how to feel better. The theory offers a map for self-help, and also for integrative therapists—those who use many techniques. Read More Heartbroken: What Does Neuroimaging Show About Your ...
Energy Therapies: An Exciting New Psychological Frontier Susan Heitler, Ph.D., www.TherapyHelp.com and PowerofTwoMarriage.com Published initially in The Colorado Psychologist, June, 2012 Energy therapy refers to interventions that address the body’s negative and positive energy flows to enable h...
by Susan Heitler, Ph.D. www.therapyhelp.com and www.poweroftwomarriage.com Depression produces feelings of powerlessness and helplessness. Depressed feelings are triggered by a situation in which a person gives up on getting something of felt importance. The following visualization, illustrated on...
In my posting today I am sharing a question and answer from a recent story on depression that posted on my blog at PsychologyToday.com. The question sent to me was an excellent one. I’ve tried to answer it with full candor. Just wondering what you mean Submitted by Anonymous on October...
The soon-to-be-released movie Hysteria, judging from the trailor, looks like good clean fun on a scientificly, historically, and pretty racy subject. Attitudes toward sex in Victorian England get explored in this movie with what seems to be relatively tasteful and historically acurate portrayals. ...
In politics, and in relationships, can protests make us feel good? “You have to fight to feel good.” In my twenties, when I was living in New York with a group of post-college friends, Bob was a tall handsome young man in our cadre who took this slogan about protests as his raison d’etre. ...
As of the last week of August of 2011 PsychologyToday.com has selected me to be one of the psychologists who post expert-opinions on their website. My first post on the blog is an article explaining three of the main elements that make couples therapy effective. “From Thin-Skinned to W...
All too often, hurtful words slip inadvertently from our mouths. Sometimes we genuinely meant no harm. At other times it’s worth checking in with our quiet voices. Did we in fact mean to poke or jab? And if so, why? Freud wrote about jokes, saying that they really do tend to rest on su...
To fully clean up distressed feelings an apology needs to include the following ingredients. 1. Specificity: “I’m sorry about my ______.” That is, specify exactly what you did that you see now was mistaken. 2. Non-intentionality: “I didn’t mean to hurt you.” 3. Clarification: W...
Like a three ring circus, conflict resolution therapy with couples includes three arenas of interventions. In Arena A the therapist identifies and guides resolution of the issues over which couples have been experiencing tensions. Tensions can be manifest in squabbles, fights, or reluctance to add...
Three Levels of Conflict Resolution Treatment Susan Heitler, Ph.D., www.therapyhelp.com and www.poweroftwomarriage.com Jon and Julia came to therapy for help toning down their continual bickering. Now they rarely bicker and enjoy instead a warm and loving partnership. What does a conflict reso...
Couples often seek information on how to fix a relationship, how to communicate with your spouse, how to handle marriage problems, and how to save a marriage. They are wise to seek out this kind of information, especially about skills for communication in marriage. Most of all they need conflict r...
ANXIETY: FRIEND OR FOE? A GUIDE TO CONFLICT-FOCUSED TREATMENT OF ANXIETY Based on the Audio CD Anxiety: Friend or Foe? by Susan Heitler, Ph.D. available at www.therapyhelp.com or http://poweroftwomarriage.com. This guide is for therapists. At the same time, individuals are welcome to use it on t...
Psychological Reversal: Assessment and Treatment of Self-Defeating Tendencies By Susan Heitler, Ph.D. www.therapyhelp.com Posted March 2, 2011 Note: Dale Petterson, one of the independent therapy professionals in my office suite, is presently conducting free testing for psychological reversal. To ...
MY HUSBAND HAD AN AFFAIR! An Exercise for Turning a Major Mistake into Mutual Learning By Susan Heitler, Ph.D. One exercise in the recovery process, toward the goal of inoculation against further infidelities, is for your husband and you to think of the infidelity as the last stop on a train line. ...
Susan Heitler, Ph.D. What is Terrorism? How Can It Be Understood From Psychological Perspectives Terrorism is a large-scale version of domestic violence. Understanding domestic batterers1 can help us to understand the terrorists who perpetrated the Boston Marathon bombings. Part I of this series of ...
Susan Heitler, Ph.D. 4500 East 9th Avenue, Suite 660-S, Denver, CO 80220 (303) 388-4211, drheitler@gmail.comju For permission to reproduce this article please contact the author. C Susan Heitler, 1998. Psychologists and lawyers work in similar businesses. Helping people to resolve their conflicts i...
Susan Heitler, Ph.D. University of Denver, School of Professional Psychology 1. Define conflict levels Conflict may be expressed in anxious tension, depression, disengagement (for fear of fights), and passive-aggressive or addictive behavior, as well as in overt anger, deprecating or demanding wor...
Susan Heitler, Ph.D. www.therapyhelp.com January, 2009 Couples entering therapy typically list conflict resolution as one of their main treatment goals. For successful treatment, they want their therapist to guide them to safe and satisfying resolution ...
Susan Heitler, Ph.D: To be published in the forthcoming book Earning a Living Outside of Managed Care: Fifty Ways to Leave Your Oppressor, Steve Walfish, ed. I am a psychologist in private practice whose marriage therapy treatment strategy includes a heavy dose of marriage skills training. I write ...
Susan Heitler, Ph.D. www.TherapyHelp.com The winter holiday season brings emotions aplenty. Gift-giving and family gatherings bring heights of joy to many people—and the intensity of the holidays can trigger equally potent emotional lows. The following list suggests a number of common downers. B...
By Susan Heitler, Ph.D., author, From Conflict to Resolution www.therapyhelp.com For therapy with the so-called personality disorders of borderlines and narcissists, a non-pathologizing orientation can be helpful. These are folks who function in a borderline or narcissistic matter, that is, in a w...
Power of Two Marriage Skills Workshops And Its Use with Refugees Susan Heitler, M.Ed., Ph.D. Tatyana Fertelmeyster, MA, LCPC Private Practice Jewish Family and Community Service Denver, CO [...]...
Susan Heitler, Ph.D. Author, The Power of Two, and The Power of Two Workbook www.TherapyHelp.com Come live with me and be my love, And we will all the pleasures prove… Christopher Marlowe, The Passionate Shepherd to His Love Can this poet’s romantic image of living together be a reality in t...
Helping Two I’s, and a We: A Conflict-Focused Framework for Integrating Individual and Couple Treatment Most therapists describe themselves as eclectic, drawing on various treatment strategies depending on the nature of the problem they confront in that session. Effective clinicians tend to deve...
Susan Heitler, Ph.D. drheitler@gmail.com; 303 388-4211; www.therapyhelp.com This paper is adapted from Dr. Heitler’s chapter in A Practice That Works, Harris, S.M., Ivey, D.C. and Bean, R. (eds), 2005. New York: Routledge. Divorce lawyers and clinical psychologists have much to gain by forming wo...
Dr. Susan Heitler, Ph.D. and Sara Heitler Article for Child Magazine FIX-IT TALK July 1, 1996 Nighttime is a hard time for Joanne Jennings, a Denver mother of a three year old and a six month old baby. Joanne works part-time as a librarian while raising her children. Her husband Todd, an insurance...
Conflict Resolution Therapy By Susan Heitler, Ph.D. The premises of Conflict Resolution Therapy, developed by psychologist Susan Heitler, Ph.D , were first laid out in full in Dr. Heitler’s 1990 book From Conflict to Resolution. This book brought conflict resolution techniques from the world of ...
Conflict Resolution: Essential Skills for Couples and Their Counselors Susan Heitler, Ph.D. Denver, Colorado drheitler@gmail.com Abstract Marriage and relationship counselors need expertise in conflict resolution to work effectively with couples in distress. Couples’ ineffective conflict resol...
Communication, Listening, and Conflict-resolution Skills Susan Heitler Ph.D. From the forthcoming book Encyclopedia of Peace Psychology, Dan Christie, Ed. Participants in peaceful relationships generally interact in a friendly manner. Their dialogue has smooth laminar information flow. When turbule...
Conflict Resolution Treatment Combined Individual/Marital Therapy: A Conflict-Resolution Framework and Ethical Considerations Susan Heitler, Ph.D. Denver, Colorado Correspondence concerning this article should be sent to Susan Heitler, Ph.D. 4500 East 9th Avenue, Suite 660 Denver, CO 80220 Abstract ...
Susan Heitler, Ph.D. Pleased To Kill You www.therapyhelp.com Shane Marie Morrow Lecture Metro Department of Psychology October 10, 2007 I. DOMESTIC ABUSE The following readings on domestic abuse are from the website www.helpguide.org, a website with excellent resource listings. Domestic violence and...
Shane Marie Morrow Lecture Metro Department of Psychology October 10, 2007 Susan Heitler, Ph.D. On 9/11 of 2001 Americans discovered terrorism. Reeling from the shocking news of planes flown into New York’s World Trade Center, Americans turned on their TV sets. To our horror, we watched Palestini...
Susan Heitler, Ph.D. 4500 East 9th Ave, Suite 660, Denver, CO 80220 303 388-4211; drheitler@gmail.com; www.therapyhelp.com Apologies and Forgiveness Expert Article by Susan Heitler, Ph.D. For Issues: Relationships and Marriage Apologies remove the toxic sting from mistaken interactions. After upsets...
Susan Heitler, Ph.D. 4500 East 9th Ave, Suite 660 Denver, CO 80220 303 388-4211 Apologies remove the toxic sting from mistaken interactions. An effective apology, however, is a complex event. Interestingly, apology is broadly used as a mediation intervention in China1, and is listed as an appeasing ...